Healing is not about forgetting, it’s about learning and moving forward with grace.

Some days, it feels like you’ve moved on. Like the past is neatly folded and put away. Other days, a thought or a memory reminds you that healing doesn’t always mean closure. It means learning how to carry what still aches with a little more care.

Lately, I’ve been thinking about the relationships that have fallen away in my life. The ones I thought I’d made peace with. I set the boundaries I needed to set. I did the work. I told myself I was okay. And in many ways, I am. But healing, I’m learning, can still come in waves. It’s not always about moving on but about moving with. About recognizing the parts of you that still feel tender and meeting them with compassion.

I don’t regret creating space from what no longer served me. But I’d be lying if I said there wasn’t still hurt. Hurt from the ones who didn’t even try. Who walked away without a word. Who chose silence over understanding. That kind of absence lingers, even when life goes on.

But this is part of the process. These quiet reckonings. These little reckonings. These moments of reflection. They’re reminders that growth doesn’t mean forgetting. It means honoring what you’ve learned and continuing to choose yourself, even when it’s hard.

Wherever you are in your own healing, let it be enough today. Let it come in waves. Let it teach you what still needs tending.